We want many things in life, but I think fewer are more desirable than the need to build confidence. Especially after experiencing trauma, failure or countless torments.
The key is to know how to pick yourself up and lay solid foundations for a completely new self. A stronger one. Equipped with infinite ammunition of strength.
But apart from strength, you need to cultivate other ingredients, as well. I want to help you plant the seeds of light which will nourish a person ready to love, embrace life and be grateful for the tiniest of reasons.
What are mantras, after all?
I won’t give you an ‘accepted’ definition. I’ll just tell you they are powerful means you can control your brain through.
Raised an eyebrow?
It’s because you may not be aware of how powerful self-talk acts upon the brain.
Let’s take a scenario: you’ve recently experienced a life crisis and you desperately want to get out of that place, regain strength and build confidence to start over. And still, you keep circling around, seemingly in the same place of negativity and bad luck, pointing out to every problem which has led to the current situation.
So naturally, your brain will only see and process the downsides. The valuable things you own or have done so far are pushed to the side because your mind is too busy with its complacency in the dark pool of despair.
The solution is the mantra of positivity. Start small: first thing after waking up should be repeating 5 wonderful things you’re grateful about. Then you can increase the number and see how you’ll start noticing the overwhelming beauty you forgot to explore.
But there’s a golden rule here: don’t ever skip a day. Not one. Stick to the bright side.
This is a vital skill for confidence and strength building.
In order to get out of the vicious circle of a negative and weak mind, you need to learn (or re-learn) how you deal with blame.
Throwing the blame on someone else or on adverse circumstances will only get you so far.
Of course, external factors are always involved, but the less you dwell on analysing them, the more time you have to focus on your contribution to your situation. As small as it is, you’ll learn precious lessons about how you reacted in unfavourable situations and how you could do it better the next time.
It takes a village to raise a child, they say.
But it also takes a village to build confidence after you’ve been tested by life.
What I mean by that is you need to surround yourself with your own ‘village’ of wonderful people.
Mind you, it doesn’t mean that, all of a sudden, you should start being friends with dozens of people. It means you should start building stronger ties with positive, interesting, radiant people who’ll help you get fresh perspectives on every aspect of life.
And also be at peace with it.
You can’t go ad infinitum on blaming the Universe for your misfortunes. At a certain point, you have to take the bull by the horns and stand for yourself.
Because this is your only option.
Because the strength you think you possess is far weaker than the one you actually have within.
I can show you what it’s like to overcome crisis and attain an extraordinary level of inner peace. I’ve helped many reach this stage. And it’s your turn now.
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